Dating in the online world
Dating is hard enough when you can see the person face to face, but when you get into the world of online dating using dating apps like Tinder, you can often find yourself in a different world filled with uncertainty and confusion. Part of the reason for this is that there is often less pressure to be genuine and honest when you are online instead of looking at a person. Another issue is that people you meet online may be from another part of the country or the world. Because of that, I have put together a list of suggestions to help you find the right person for you online.
Do use serious dating sites
When you are looking for someone to share your life with, you don’t want to mess around with sites that are just about looking for a fling. Seeing a picture and swiping to the left or right doesn’t help you to get to know that person before you make a decision. Look for serious dating sites that give you valid information about the other person, and ask you to share as well.
Don’t use every dating site you can find
It is tempting to go online and just start signing up for dating sites left and right. It is an option you can choose, but that is going to cause you to lose focus on the goal of finding one person online. You may miss out on a lot of people who aren’t on the one or two dating sites that you choose, but it will be easier to get to know the people on those sites rather than split your attention between every site ever created for dating.
Do be honest
Let’s imagine that you are already set up with a dating site, and starting to explore. You find a profile with a picture of an amazing looking person. Not only are they very attractive, but they also have a great job with high pay. On the weekends, they even volunteer at tons of great charities. They seem like the perfect person, and you want to get to know them better. However, that person doesn’t actually exist.
The person who set up the profile lied about themselves to get more attention and more dates. Do you want to be in that situation? Don’t put anyone else in that spot either. Set up your profile and be honest about yourself. You will make better connections when you are honest because your potential date will know more about you.
Don’t make up stories
As mentioned before, it is very tempting to make up stories to impress your potential dates, but there is also a temptation to make up stories to make them feel bad for you. Sure that might get you a quick date now, but the Right Person isn’t interested in starting over when they discover that your cat, Mittens, wasn’t killed in a tragic dryer accident. Or even worse, that you never even had a cat named Mittens. this is the kind of situation that can end a relationship before it even gets started.
Do try to meet new people
When you are dating, online or in real life, it is a good idea to look outside of your comfort zone for potential dates. Look at profiles of new and unusual people. Search out someone that isn’t just like you so that you can expand your horizons and maybe learn some new things about the world around you. There are billions of people in the world that you haven’t met, and every one of them can add to the fabric of your life if you can avoid hiding in your own little bubble.
Don’t try to meet everyone all at once
Once you get set up on a dating site, it would be easy to just click on every single profile and start a conversation with everyone just hoping that someone will reply. This is counter productive. It’s like those sales calls that you get as you are just about to eat dinner for some guy trying to sell you a set of commemorative coins or something like that. When you send a message, make sure it is to someone that you think you would be interested in getting to know better. That way there is a stronger chance of making a great connection.
What are you waiting for? Get out there and start looking.
When it comes to online dating, there are a wide variety of people who are also out there looking for the right person. Keep your eyes open and you will start to make connections. Don’t be afraid of new experiences and people because life is all about taking chances. Good luck and happy dating!